You cannot escape the results of your thoughts.
Whatever your present environment may be,
you will fall, remain or rise with
your thoughts, your vision, your ideal.
You will become as small
as your controlling desire;
as great as your dominant aspiration.
I wish I knew who said that. Isn?t it wonderful? What do you think of it? Is it true for you? What do you want to happen in your life? Are you focusing on it? Do you feel you are moving towards or away from it? What do you need to do to make your dreams and goals come true?
Have you heard the saying ?what you focus on is what you get?? I would love to suggest that you try an experiment just to see what you think. Pick an area, any area of your life and start focusing on that. It is a good idea to use a generalisation to start with so that you get a feel for the exercise. Some examples that you may like to use:
Most people I know exercise ? and start looking at all the people you know who exerciseMy partner helps out around the house ? and start watching for when they help out around the houseEvery weekend I get time to do something that I really enjoy ? and take note of what little things happen on the weekend that you enjoyI have fantastic friends who really care ? and take note of the small actions and things your friends do for you
You may have noticed that we used only positive examples.
That was deliberate as all of these could be switched to a negative but that would mean we are focusing on the negatives and that will make us not feel so good.
A personal example for me was that many years ago, I was working full time and felt like I was the only mother in the whole school who worked full time. When I was able to get to school what I saw were mums who were always there to pick up their children. I felt really guilty. Eventually, I changed and started to work part time and that is when I realised I wasn?t the only mum who worked full time, who wasn?t there to always pick up her children, there are loads of mums who are all juggling as much as me. It was what I was focusing on and it was negative and it dragged me down.
I have really learnt the power of what you focus on is what you get. Another personal example was that I felt my husband wasn?t helping enough at home of an evening. Then I decided to shift my focus and decided that whenever he helped, I would say ?thank you?. I was trying to use positive reinforcement. That old tactic you use with children to get them to do things, I figured I would try it with my husband.
So every time he helped, I say ?thank you.? What I realised was how many small little things he did without me asking. Perhaps my frustration had been that he wasn?t doing what I would like him to be doing at that moment, but he was doing things. This changed my attitude and we are a great team now that work really well together. That was my aim and focus and it has happened.
Too often, we focus and think about what we don?t have or what we would want. Take time to focus on what you have and be grateful for it and then think about what you want and dedicate your thoughts and focus to that. It will happen. What you focus on is what you get so what do you want? Start seeing it, hearing it, feeling it and believing it.
