Last time on “messing your love life” ended on “uncontrolled libido”as one reason why many people rush into relationships. I hope you did enjoy it? Do not hesitate to contact with your feedback; I really love them.
I won’t be glad to see you suffer the ordeal or busted relationships and so I am doing all I can, with your corporation for us to teach ourselves on how to live happily in your (our) love life.
They are many dreams unrealised, many children on the street, countless broken homes and war inside the locus of feelings and intuitions (hearts) of several people, all because, a part of them had been peeled off!
Immediately you profess to your lover with these words, “I love you and I am committed to stay with you come rain or shine until death do us part” and you place that adorable ring into his or her beautiful finger, you have spiritually become one. The day you amazingly and boldly take out that ring out of your finger because of anger or you take a decision to give your back to your partner, your life becomes like a body detaching itself from another body which were both glued together by virtue of your confession.
Very difficult to be separated and even if finally you both are unequivocally away from yourselves physically, you are still glued spiritually. I wouldn’t want you to suffer your brain to imagine the aftermath of such beautifully obnoxious decisionbut just use a pint of your brain tissue to see in your mind’s eye how the damage will be to both of you.
Why some people rush into relationships and it effects
Waiting too long:
This might sound contradictory. But take for example, you have a journey to embark on which is slated for ten days from the day the idea of travelling was conceived. You will have to start preparing from that day, otherwise, when the time is elapsing, you will have no option than to activate your emergency wings to fly, which could lead to an accident. Another perfect example is about the Trotsky system in Ghana. Ever been to Kumasi without your own car where you have to join a commercial vehicle popularly known as “trotro”? Well, if you have not tried that, try some day but with care otherwise you might break your limb out of haste to get a car home because you probably delayed somewhere or you got to the station late.
People wait too long probably because, they say, they haven’t gotten the right partner yet or they are preparing. Preparation is a step to a better relationship but how long do want to be in the office of preparation?Getting the right partner is a decision of the mind; it might not be easier for you but once you decide to start a relationship, present it to God for better directions.
A rushed love mostly becomes a trashed love. On your waiting mode, ensure that you don’t sleep off and the train of love comes to pass you by.
Unstable mind (indecisive):
I guess you have ever had the opportunity to choose from variety? How does it feel if you earlier didn’t know which one your heart desires? How about inside the boutique, where you didn’t plan of what to buy but just decides that you need to get something? You are likely to buy an item and later proclaim the popular phrase “if I had known”.At that moment, you either return the item (if their terms and conditions permits that) or you stock it. It adds no value to you again.
Many of us have had the exposure to different environment where we made many friends of the opposite gender. It is not bad though, but the extent and or kind of interaction you intermingle with each matters. Imagine you are a guy, who met, say five ladies of your heartbeat, and you continuously go deeper into conversion with them, you know what you are doing? You are building structures of love, pulling them along with your heart and after sometime, when you want to finally settle with one and all of them are showing signs of being with you, you can select wrongly. Love is natural but it takes a strong decision and intention to be in a healthy love. If you are having an unstable mind today about your love life, ask the Creator, He knows your soul mate before you were conceived.
Work related issues
Thenature of some peoples work does not give them the opportunity to be at one place for a long time. And so they are “unable” to establish a strong bond with a partner. The end result of this mostly leads to one falling in for just anyone since he/she might not again have that opportunity to stay longer at a certain place.
Failed promises:
It might be rare though, I believe they are some group of people who at a time assured themselves that, they would be friends, study themselves and if they are compatible they will be together, otherwise, each finds his/her route.It might have been the wrong decision to have been made. If you are fortunate enough you it will lead to a joyful ending but when the unfortunate happens, you will be compelled to pick up the broken pieces and mend them and start all over. This might lead you to rush.Read the signs from the first day and make decisions from them.
Well, because I so much desire to see you glad in your relationship or love life, we will be switching to “starting a healthy relationship and maintaining it”. In short, “A healthy relationship”
Until then, let us stay connected and remember, a healthy relationship keeps you young and gives you a happy home.
Source: Michael Akparibo Alung
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