By Bernard Kwofie
Do I have a father?
To my soon-to-be colleague-Husbands
My Dear Husbands; I know it?s the season most of you have been waiting for all this while. And that armed with passion most of you wouldn?t want to be engaged in any other conversation apart from soccer.
I am even told many of you are declining sexual offers from your wives. Just for football. Well I hope this continues even after the tournament. But if you plan of returning to such offers after the games, then know that you are merely being selfish and misguided.
Whiles I pray you change, I hope this attitude of yours will not push you faithful wives to the core and seek satisfaction elsewhere. Know that there are men very much aggressive today than it used to be. This I have told you before.
Again, do not forget that we can only watch football and that we cannot not eat it satisfaction. So why run away from the fruit ?spiritually? forbidden from my likes for want of morality.
In any case, do not forget that whiles you enjoy your soccer many of you are having your homes uncurbed. And that whiles you go along there are many more questions on the lips of your kids than you can ever imagine. Many children are wondering if they really have a father.
My dear colleagues, this is not a joke, many of you have your lifestyles threatening the growth of your kids. Many of you by your actions have left your children without fathers.
Even as we celebrate father?s day come this Sunday amidst deep-centred controversy, I believe you all have the opportunity to reflect on your obligations to your kids.
To the few whom God has mercifully blessed with this gift of procreations, let this not be your claim of fatherhood. Just as you know, I am still single and childless and in no way experienced child birth.
But even in my single life I have cared for, and fed many children. I have been an example to many kids. I have laboured for the many. I have even taken the pain to live with some few.
Again, I have had the privilege of a father, and although today he may not be here with me, I can confidently trace his shadows. Yes, it was all through not perfect, but the most times, he made sure there was enough food for me to eat, that my Christmas cloths were always ready, that I was never dismissed from school and always had my school fees paid.
And so if today I am asked if I have a father? I can confidently trace his shadows and say yes.
To the few of you my soon-to-be colleagues yet to feel the cry of a child, know that this is not that makes a father. Fatherhood is in the little things you do to bring smiles on the faces of the many struggling kids. And so while you keep lamenting, and await yours; gather your mess and walk the corners in such of an abandoned child to bring home and care for.
Do not forget that this Sunday is father?s day, and that this is my very special to you.
Again, know that left to in the control of many women, there will be no show tomorrow, simply because of the few bad nuts within your ranks.
Let to tomorrow find you all men and fathers and help many kids realise their dream of a father.
I know it has been such a long time since our last conversation and that many of would have loved to hear more from me, particularly on my love for O.A. But let me not take much of your delight. You have already lost one to self-importance. Let this not be the second.
Till I join your ranks, I still remain your-soon-to-be-colleague husband.
Nana
