Young woman fed up with the nonsense

It is important to be aware of the signs pointing to a controller, so if you notice the behavioral pattern describing a controlling partner, the relationship with such a person must be put to an end immediately. A controlling boyfriend is difficult to be with and living with such a person can leave social, emotional and sometimes physical scar.  Here are the signs identifying the controller type:

 

He doesn?t like it when you go out with your friends. Does he say your friends are a bad influence or does he think one of your guy friends are hitting on you? He starts to choose your friends and tells you whom to hang out with. Eventually you?d find yourself losing touch with most of your friends

Treats you like an object. A controlling boyfriend does not appreciate his partner at all. He has no respect for her, no love or honest concern. He always does what he likes, never explains himself and cares only about his desires and needs. Therefore, he will always demand things of his partner, pressuring her, demanding or resorting to violence in order to convince her to comply with his wishes. This also includes performing sexual activities against her will.

Controls and limits your social activities. If she leaves the house, upon her return, she will have to face a shower of questions and reproaches. There are no secrets when living with a controlling boyfriend, and that is because he demands constant answers regarding all aspects of her partner?s social life. He barely allows her to go out, and when he does it is only for shopping to fulfill his needs

He stalks you. He wants you to keep in touch with him very often, and he wants to be informed about everything you?re doing even if you?re just stepping out of office for a coffee break with your friends.

He wants to know everything about you. He hates secrets. He tells you all his passwords and secrets, and expects you to do the same, be it your email, twitter or facebook account. He wants to know every single detail of your daily life, and when he finds out that you haven?t told him a few things, he acts pained and hurt.

He?s never at fault. But you always are. Even if he meets with an accident on the way to work, he blames it on someone else or the big fight both of you had that morning. But if you make a mistake, he?ll make sure he constantly reminds you about the incident over and over again.

Source : Akosua Sekyewaa Oduro

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