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The rate of divorce and marital crisis in our society is quite alarming and most of the unpalatable situations among Christians are very avoidable but for the failure of the parties involved to die to self. ?Then Jesus said to his disciples, ?If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me? (John 16:24 NIV

If you desire a joyful and successful marriage, then, you must drop yourself. This is the only way you can love your partner so deeply, forgive and forget offences easily, protect and cherish the person, etc. As long as you are ruled by self with ?A whole me? syndrome, you cannot succeed in marriage.
?I tell you the truth, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds. The man who loves his life will lose it, while the man who hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life? (John 12:24-25 NIV).
The originator of the marital institution is God and therefore, operating outside the Manual of the creator is a journey to failure and destruction.
?For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ? (1st Corinthians 3:11 NIV).

Someone asks: ?But why are the marriages of some born again Christians failing?? The answer is that we are in the days when everybody claims to be born again. Street fighter, adulterer, malice bearer and so on say they are born again. What does it mean to be born again?
We understand from the Bible in Genesis 1:26-30 that when God created our first parents, Adam and Eve, his intention was to have fellowship with man regularly. Adam and Eve committed sin and sin separated man from God. God was determined to reconcile man back to himself. He sent his only begotten son Jesus Christ, to come to the world to die for your sins and mine, and reconcile us back to God (John 3:16).
When you give birth to a child, there are certain things that you don?t have to teach the child like lying, etc. Naturally, the child will commit certain sins as time goes on if there is absence of godly parentage because he has sinful adamic nature. All of us came into this world with sinful adamic nature. ?For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God? (Romans 3:23). It is when you now understand the difference between good and evil, Jesus and the devil, you then, make up your mind and say: ?Now, I want to drop my sinful nature. I want to accept Jesus Christ as my personal Lord and saviour.? When Jesus takes over your life, what it means is that anything that Jesus cannot do, you can no longer do them. Jesus cannot steal, lie, cheat, fight, fornicate, bear malice, manipulate, deceive, hate, kill, etc. You can no longer do these things because you now carry a spirit called Jesus. You cannot be operating with a different spirit. That is the meaning of born again.

When you give birth to a child, it is not a secret. Everybody around you knows that something has happened. But these days, someone says he has been born again. You ask ?When and how did it happen?? He says ?I can?t remember.? This is not possible. The experience is neither a joke nor a secret. When you give your life to Jesus, everybody around you will know that something has happened to your life. People will make comments like ?Is this you? You were used to drinking. I can?t see you do it again. You were a popular womanizer. What has happened to you?. You were a street fighter. These days, you are so calm. What happened? Tell us; etc? Everybody around you will know that something has happened to your life. You too, will be always excited to tell people what Jesus has done to your life. That is the meaning of born again.

When Jesus takes over your life, you are no longer yourself. ?For ye are dead and your life is hid with Christ in God? (Colosians 3:3 KJV).
Unless you die to self as a husband or wife, your marriage NEVER WORK. Jesus must be allowed to take over and rule over you. ?I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me? (Galatians 2:20 KJV).
?…God resisteth the proud but giveth grace unto the humble? (James 4:6 KJV). “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble? (NLT).
My brother! My sister! Except Jesus is allowed to rule instead of self, there is no way you will not cheat, beat, hate abhore, quarrel or separate from your spouse.
I don?t know if you are enjoying your current condition and the troubles of the devil. Surrender your heart to Jesus and allow him to take over, control and repair your marriage.

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